tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post4132603679810577871..comments2024-03-14T02:27:34.359-04:00Comments on The Yummy Mummy: On Being An Angry MomKim Fosterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12931573096200273764noreply@blogger.comBlogger57125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-43241299936122863302018-06-19T23:41:17.251-04:002018-06-19T23:41:17.251-04:00There's noticeably a bundle to know about this...There's noticeably a bundle to know about this. I assume you made certain good factors in options also. <a href="https://online-casinos.us.org" rel="nofollow">casino slots</a>fillikir72518https://www.blogger.com/profile/04617626994297367122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-44150532816538877832015-10-19T10:55:21.559-04:002015-10-19T10:55:21.559-04:00Unknown -
Thanks for writing. If you email me ay...Unknown - <br /><br />Thanks for writing. If you email me ay KimATFosterEntertainmentDOTnet, I'll gift you the book I wrote on this subject. Maybe it will help. If nothing else, you'll know you aren't alone. <br /><br />And really, you aren't alone. The feelings you are having are common among parents with young kids, and you can change it. <br /><br />Good luck. - KImkim Fosterhttp://www.kim-foster.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-77409569576994274342015-10-19T08:35:02.331-04:002015-10-19T08:35:02.331-04:00I stumbled upon this post right when i needed conf...I stumbled upon this post right when i needed confirmation that my own personal poor parenting experiences are shared by another mum. Thank you for inspiring me to try harder Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14206724768105237355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-48820538112869939142015-09-23T11:39:29.459-04:002015-09-23T11:39:29.459-04:00Anonymous -
It's good that you wrote. You kn...Anonymous - <br /><br />It's good that you wrote. You know, I wrote this post (and the book about this) in 2011. Now my kids are 9 & 10. I can tell you for certain, I don't lose my temper much anymore. So, the good news is, it gets better. They get older and more agreeable and are able to communicate more, as are you with them. But for now, know that I understand. <br /><br />One thing that helped me was that every morning I got up, and said: "Okay, I set the tone, so Im going to make this a good day, even if it all goes to hell. Whatever happens, I'm going to be patient, even if it takes us three hours to get out of the house, it's okay, because it's just about their experience." Those kinds of mantras helped me focus on just letting whatever happens, happen. If it takes us 3 hours to shop, fine. if we cant get out the door because of a meltdown, fine. If we have to stop in public and let the baby cry, fine. I just gave myself permission to have a whole lot of imperfection, and that helped a lot. It shifted my perspective. <br /><br />Counseling can help a lot, too. A good cognitive therapist can help you discuss your own anger issues and help you come up with strategies for when you start to lose control. Also, if you email me ay KimATFosterEntertainmentDOTnet, I'll gift you the book I wrote on this subject. Maybe it will help. If nothing else, you'll know you aren't alone. <br /><br />And you're not alone. Lots of parents feel this way, and you can manage it, and it does get better. <br /><br />Reach out to me anytime. <br /><br />Kimkim Fosterhttp://www.kim-foster.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-47783942298035399932015-09-23T09:40:05.053-04:002015-09-23T09:40:05.053-04:00Thank you for this. I am the mean mom and I don&#...Thank you for this. I am the mean mom and I don't like me. I get angry all the time I am the one that lashes out, I am the yeller, my neighbors know I am the yeller and we have at least an acre or so between us. Heck I think the neighbors 1/2 mile away know I am a yeller when the wind is blowing in the right direction. I swat my kids and bonk them on the head. I WANT TO STOP but I don't know how. I have that feeling of I'm standing outside my body and yelling at myself to stop they are just kids but I can't I just keep going. I don't know why I am this way but I don't like it and I am reaching out looking for help. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-13664223790608493572015-01-09T13:16:26.678-05:002015-01-09T13:16:26.678-05:00Wow, just found this article after googling 'a...Wow, just found this article after googling 'angry mum' and it echoes my life! Although I know the work I have to do/am supposed to do on a daily basis to try and combat all this anger/yelling, what I want to know is who's helping us? It is so hard to find anywhere that helps angry parents. There is lots on being a more in tune parent etc, but no real techniques or courses for calming the anger (don't say meditation, I am a home educator to 2 young children, I barely get a chance to use the toilet alone let alone meditate every day!) I know a lot is nature for me and my son has it too - we are passionate! So how not to guilt ourselves endlessly about that?! Thank you to the daughter who wrote their reply too, that really helped with the guilt thing.Lorrainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08988180461686653581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-10231228120183953062011-05-03T21:54:47.274-04:002011-05-03T21:54:47.274-04:00thank you. that was truly an amazing post. i jus...thank you. that was truly an amazing post. i just wandered here from charcupalooza... i am so glad i found this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-32758672086392248682011-04-20T17:11:13.672-04:002011-04-20T17:11:13.672-04:00Came across your blog today and am totally gratefu...Came across your blog today and am totally grateful I did. THANK YOU<br />You rock for writing thisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-55723385336649600512011-04-10T13:25:27.360-04:002011-04-10T13:25:27.360-04:00Oh, Kim, I just love you so much.Oh, Kim, I just love you so much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-88885066031450946242011-04-08T00:55:05.919-04:002011-04-08T00:55:05.919-04:00Thank you. For writing this article and making me ...Thank you. For writing this article and making me take a minute to reflect on what's important. I am starring this to read when I'm having an impatient day. This post just perfectly sums it up.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12508099437459952219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-40501609023756392222011-04-04T14:32:03.624-04:002011-04-04T14:32:03.624-04:00thank you for writing this article. I have a 1o ye...thank you for writing this article. I have a 1o year old and a 10 month old. and let me tell you it is not a picnic. Most nights I just want to curl up and sleep and I end up getting so frustrated that my little one just wont go down like I want her too.<br /><br />half way through the day I tear my 10 year olds head off because she is pmsing (yes truly she is) and I just want her to do this one thing, whatever it may be, and she just cannot understand what I'm talking about. So I yell at her. The mother I have become is not the one I intended to be when I set out for this ride.candyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05498070921228720295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-6214833668221727932011-04-01T14:01:28.128-04:002011-04-01T14:01:28.128-04:00I'm not a mom, I'm a daughter. One of the...I'm not a mom, I'm a daughter. One of the not-yet-grown-because-I-am-neither-married-nor-have-children grown daughters. I moved out of my parents house three months ago to live with my boyfriend who lives two hours away from both of our parents (we grew up in the same town). My Mom is a yeller, God bless her. She was disappointed in me more times than I can count. But it was all deserved and I can see that now. At the time I was bitter and would withdraw my love from her as I saw her taking her love away and replacing it with anger over these things that I felt were in no way my fault. <br /><br />I came home to visit my Mom two weeks ago and all I could do for two days was thank her for being the amazing woman that she is and has always been for me. Because of her shouting, her demanding the best from me, I now demand the best from myself. She lent me ambition when I had none, showed me the motivation and zest for life I could possess and has always loved me in the way only a mother can. <br /><br />I demand so much of myself that I've paid for four years of college on my own, I help pay rent and bills in my new home, I work, I am an intern, I am a volunteer, I am a sister, I am a girlfriend, I am a best friend, I am about to become a college graduate for the second time. But most importantly, I am my mother's daughter. <br /><br />Thank you for your words, they help me better understand my Mom. You are not a bad mother, I promise. Anyone who loves their children enough to write words as distraught and honest as yours could never be a bad mother.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16649389892655802959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-69984451591847100162011-03-31T11:07:34.699-04:002011-03-31T11:07:34.699-04:00What a wonderfully honest post. Linked to in from...What a wonderfully honest post. Linked to in from FB, and I am so glad I read it. I am struggling with these feelngs and behaviors everyday, always thinking I am the only one (I know I am not). Good luck to you, and all of us that struggle to be the parents we want to be.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16394017467354155451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-24549170007856707192011-03-30T20:49:20.871-04:002011-03-30T20:49:20.871-04:00Awesome, Kim! I've so been there. Thank goodne...Awesome, Kim! I've so been there. Thank goodness that each day is a fresh chance to be better, do better, react better. <br /><br />Thanks for your words.Aimee @ Simple Biteshttp://www.simplebites.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-46305507995707311242011-03-30T15:51:55.494-04:002011-03-30T15:51:55.494-04:00Honestly, I had stopped reading you for awhile be...Honestly, I had stopped reading you for awhile because it often made me feel bad about myself because it's just not possible for me, as a parent, to be as cool as you. Yeah, you're human! Thank you for sharing. Beautiful post. Forgive yourself first and never stop practicing!Loreleinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-4495705066228963422011-03-30T06:17:01.623-04:002011-03-30T06:17:01.623-04:00I've always been a yeller, but it is punctuate...I've always been a yeller, but it is punctuated with lots of hugs, kisses and I love you's, so I'm inclined to think there is a good balance. <br /><br />I also find it imperative to share my feeling with my kids. WHY am I angry/frustrated/sad whatever. Otherwise they will just make up their own reasons, and will probably end up blaming themselves. And even if they have done something, they need to know it is the action which is displeasing, not the person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-13216468820117307622011-03-29T22:02:15.842-04:002011-03-29T22:02:15.842-04:00you regularly make me laugh, and have many times t...you regularly make me laugh, and have many times touched me, but you've never written a post that has meant anywhere near as much to me personally as this one. i identify so thoroughly with aspiring deeply to be a thoroughly connected, open and patient parent, only to slip often into that chasm of cognitive dissonance where i experience myself falling so short. please, god, don't let my furious, disappointed or impatient face be what my girl takes w/her, as her clear memories of these early years.<br />thank you, kim, for saying it so eloquently.MeredithLauranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-17989083006863871352011-03-29T11:01:23.716-04:002011-03-29T11:01:23.716-04:00Thank you for making me realize that i'm not t...Thank you for making me realize that i'm not the only mom that loses it (every day sometimes)and does the hippy dippy stuff at the same time... maybe that shows our kids (i have 2 boys) that we are human? we can be loving and caring and have a misstep every now and then? the hippy dippy stuff has however allowed me to be more readily able to ask for forgiveness and let my boys know that I love them and that my outburst was wrong. thank you, I will be following your blog for sure!<br />kendal in austin txred skirt retrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12758847216707424376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-71838744557335733102011-03-29T05:58:53.615-04:002011-03-29T05:58:53.615-04:00You are one sexy, creative, funny, fun mama and yo...You are one sexy, creative, funny, fun mama and you just made my bad ol' day a little bit better - so much better that I am now going to pour myself a glass of red wine and relax (with the kids safely asleep, at least for now). By the way I think that every little thing you wrote about happens alot around here and thank god I'm not alone. Loving your writing!!!!Gadiahttp://www.flickr.com/tamtannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-54504565704646189022011-03-29T01:36:57.375-04:002011-03-29T01:36:57.375-04:00Great post, Kim!
My children are all teenagers now...Great post, Kim!<br />My children are all teenagers now, but it this makes me want to go back to those earlier years when my patience with them was much shorter and just give them great BIG hugs at those moments when I would lose it. The time passes all too quickly. This is still a great reminder for today though, too because it's still too easy to just react and not take a step back and think when something happens.<br />Thank you for the reality check!365daysofbakinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11407526061968770219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-53104241672947803032011-03-29T00:30:16.148-04:002011-03-29T00:30:16.148-04:00This is my first time reading your blog. Thank you...This is my first time reading your blog. Thank you for this post...I really needed it today!amy k.http://www.kimchimom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-56112016342539026452011-03-28T23:35:29.226-04:002011-03-28T23:35:29.226-04:00i am bawling right now!! i have been promising my...i am bawling right now!! i have been promising myself for the past week that i will be a better mom to my whiney, clingy, cant be left in any room, insists he needs help in the bathroom, four year old. im so glad im not alone, though it doesnt make it okay to be an angry mom, its moving to know other moms out there lose their cool, and reading other moms comments makes me see things in a perspective ive never seen them before. thank you.MommaMillerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07265816579452149347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-43122538004917369262011-03-28T21:59:33.527-04:002011-03-28T21:59:33.527-04:00This is the first time I've come across your b...This is the first time I've come across your blog and I just wanted to say - thank you so much for this post!<br /><br />Mine is not old enough to be a toddler yet, but I know this is where my downfall is and I so want to avoid it. It is truly, truly helpful and encouraging to me to hear stories like this...thank you again and wishing you the best! :)Kellyhttp://www.becomingcrunchy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-56873029614311535762011-03-28T21:53:07.482-04:002011-03-28T21:53:07.482-04:00This is a great post. And I'm guessing so many...This is a great post. And I'm guessing so many moms cabn relate.<br /><br />Of course I haven't yet known a mom that wasn't doing most the work of the household - the visible housework, the unseen admin work, even laundering her partner's stuff & helping him with his job. I'm not making excuses for yelling/hitting/etc., I'm just hoping any moms feeling that pang of guilt would step back and think, how much support are they getting REALLY (from other grownups) compared to what they put in?<br /><br />As for all the ways you delineate being more patient, present and kind - beautiful.kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08183686721305419157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-34820530664399966352011-03-28T20:18:13.053-04:002011-03-28T20:18:13.053-04:00This is a great post Kim :)This is a great post Kim :)Winniehttp://www.healthygreenkitchen.comnoreply@blogger.com