tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post8654457735410264157..comments2024-03-29T06:36:05.770-04:00Comments on The Yummy Mummy: The Loss of BabiesKim Fosterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12931573096200273764noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-63394333997818309882010-02-07T10:09:41.701-05:002010-02-07T10:09:41.701-05:00So sorry to read about your loss.
I had a missed m...So sorry to read about your loss.<br />I had a missed miscarriage at 10/11 weeks last April. <br />Reading your post reminded me of everything that we went through. <br />Initially I was shell-shocked but super-positive and just holding it all in and staying completely together. But I began to unravel a couple of months down the line and for a very long while it was as if I saw everything through a very thick fog. <br />Nothing really mattered any more - other people, things .. even my own husband and kids seemed a little far-removed. I guess, even when you gracefully accept what has happened to you, in the face of such a huge loss other things fade in significance.<br />It took me at least the next 6-7 months to get over my emotional turmoil and am just now beginning to feel like my old self once again, and it no longer pinches to think about what happened.Needful Thingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16619367713876353115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-10662323453316481442009-04-29T14:22:00.000-04:002009-04-29T14:22:00.000-04:00Oh my, I'm so sorry. I also miscarried at 7 weeks ...Oh my, I'm so sorry. I also miscarried at 7 weeks (while in Africa) right before my current pregnancy happened. It sucks. There's just no getting around it. I'm really, REALLY sorry.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16314634624823829620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-63819452270608533302009-04-26T23:59:00.000-04:002009-04-26T23:59:00.000-04:00big, huge hugs to you all!big, huge hugs to you all!Le laquethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18126728643009147632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-65147567497301322142009-04-22T06:18:00.000-04:002009-04-22T06:18:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry for your loss
it really does hurt. I...I'm so sorry for your loss<br /><br />it really does hurt. I had an ectopic pregnancy and losing that little baby just broke me and my heart! I cried so hard for days, in the shower, at night, didn't want to hear about babies and wondered would I get better and would i have another baby.<br /><br />6 months later I conceived twins but still keep a little place in my heart for that little baby<br /><br />Sending you lots of hugs and hope<br /><br />Corrie:)Corriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15742167397662346566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-16402991156386832532009-04-20T05:39:00.000-04:002009-04-20T05:39:00.000-04:00I'm sitting here with tears streaming down my chee...I'm sitting here with tears streaming down my cheeks because you have to feel this, because so many of us have these sorrows every day, whether it is the loss of a baby still unknown, or a grandmother we have known for 99 years, or a sister, mother, or dear friend. It is always so hard to let them go; we always want more time. <br /><br />Still, we go on doing whatever we have to, bravely putting on the faces that can stand up to daylight, caring for those we love who are still here, realizing that we can take some comfort in that caring, and that the love and tears we spend are not forbidden, but essential to our being able to feel everything we must if we are to live each day. Sadness is not an enemy, and it needs its fair share of time.<br /><br />Hugs.<br /><br />:)vegetablejhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15449145190852647832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-17970717445831477692009-04-17T06:00:00.000-04:002009-04-17T06:00:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry. Big hugs.I'm so sorry. Big hugs.Veronica Foalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05519401661788911341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-38497051882569299782009-04-17T01:24:00.000-04:002009-04-17T01:24:00.000-04:00Sending you big hugs! You have every right to mour...Sending you big hugs! You have every right to mourn and grieve this loss. It is real - and it is important you allow yourselves to feel it, so that you are able to move on.<br /><br />As I said - sending you big hugs!<br />CindyThe Mulligan Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14684946371469424044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-80132292015765073012009-04-16T14:54:00.000-04:002009-04-16T14:54:00.000-04:00Big big hugs to you.Big big hugs to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-67719065739643257912009-04-16T11:33:00.000-04:002009-04-16T11:33:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry.
As others say, don't worry about us...I'm so sorry.<br /><br />As others say, don't worry about us, we will keep checking when you want to write again.ntschttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10086019980409702904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-45620699495766146482009-04-16T11:07:00.000-04:002009-04-16T11:07:00.000-04:00Gosh, Kim, I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you...Gosh, Kim, I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you'll be feeling better soon. You all are in my thoughts.<br />Best, <br />ElizabethElizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02953404277581801387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-70637348503862658312009-04-16T08:38:00.000-04:002009-04-16T08:38:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry for you, Kim. I'll be thinking of you...I'm so sorry for you, Kim. I'll be thinking of you.Farnésnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-70204637061953249322009-04-16T04:42:00.000-04:002009-04-16T04:42:00.000-04:00Kim, you have all my support. I'm not that good wi...Kim, you have all my support. I'm not that good with words, so I guess I'll stuck with a recipe, called "riso col latte". It's a very simple traditional recipe we use in the country, here in Italy, and I make every time I'm blue. My kids adore it, too: just bring some full milk to a boil (1 liter-2 pints for 2-4 servings), then add risotto-rice, salt to taste and cook on low heat until not liquid (15-20 minutes). You need to stir frequently otherwise the rice will stick to the pan. <br />You are strong, and it's good you shared with us. Even better you admit you need to relay on your husband and love for your kids. You taught me a lesson.<br /><br />Big Hug<br />ChiaraChiaranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-71132434113814524892009-04-15T23:54:00.000-04:002009-04-15T23:54:00.000-04:00Kim,
Big hugs to you....
jadenKim, <br />Big hugs to you....<br />jadenSteamyKitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09215147623559421585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-29215305752531557322009-04-15T20:25:00.000-04:002009-04-15T20:25:00.000-04:00Kim just wanted to tell you how sorry I am. I rea...Kim just wanted to tell you how sorry I am. I read your blog religiously but have never commented before. <br />I know how you feel - I lost my first baby at 10 weeks. You hold so many hopes for the future and when they are gone there is such a feeling of emptiness. I think the hardest part is that although you are experiencing these feelings of loss so many people don't know what you are going through. Take the time to grieve and don't minimise your loss. I'm really impressed with your strength at being able to share this here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-39926045896782148902009-04-15T20:12:00.000-04:002009-04-15T20:12:00.000-04:00:( I'm so sorry you and your family had to go thro...:( I'm so sorry you and your family had to go through this. <br /><br />I almost shit my pants when you said you are 43 - NO WAY! You don't look anything near 43...whaaaat?Smashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06717030936967083000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-10607222097969749962009-04-15T19:51:00.000-04:002009-04-15T19:51:00.000-04:00You're amazing for even sharing this with us and I...You're amazing for even sharing this with us and I thank you for that.<br /><br />I adore you Kim and I am really sorry this happened. *BIG hug* I'll be thinking about my favorite little family and sending tons of love.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12439733116558336290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-49898384707424995562009-04-15T19:06:00.000-04:002009-04-15T19:06:00.000-04:00Kim - I'm really so sorry. I still remember our t...Kim - I'm really so sorry. I still remember our talk last Summer at your mom's garage sale. We sneaked out to the glider and among other things, you told me you and David wanted another baby to love. You were beaming!! I know how you feel because I had 2 miscarriages before Andy was born. I wondered if something was wrong since you hadn't posted in so long. In fact, I almost called you one day. It's not easy,but you'll get through it. Hugs, Ritaritanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-88713857945546843782009-04-15T15:33:00.000-04:002009-04-15T15:33:00.000-04:00Ick. Not right. Not fair.
I just wrote a whole ...Ick. Not right. Not fair.<br /><br />I just wrote a whole big thing and erased it because I don't know what to say. Hugs to you and everyone: I'm so sorry it happened that way.SaintTigerlilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13987677884439974385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-44451210398380070972009-04-15T15:11:00.000-04:002009-04-15T15:11:00.000-04:00oh shit kim. i am so sorry... words will never do....oh shit kim. i am so sorry... words will never do...<br /><br />your grief is not inconsequential. don't you ever think that. it was a child you wanted so so much and that in and of its self makes it a big deal. oh sweetie i wish i was there to cook for you and give you hugs... please take care and even though i'm on the other coast if you need someone to talk to you know how to reach me. much love, kkrystahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12531928118463332366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-46702681117916461412009-04-15T15:04:00.000-04:002009-04-15T15:04:00.000-04:00I am a long time reader, but it's the first time f...I am a long time reader, but it's the first time for me to comment on your blog. I am so sorry for your loss. There is another angel watching over you now. {{hugs}}GiGihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04879399199941943861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-79961299058322545422009-04-15T13:25:00.000-04:002009-04-15T13:25:00.000-04:00I am so sorry for your little family. I am blessed...I am so sorry for your little family. I am blessed with 2 sweet boys and have never experienced what you're going through. Please know you're in my thoughts and prayers as you heal.auntjonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11090226128263928965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-57825848800775803882009-04-15T12:40:00.000-04:002009-04-15T12:40:00.000-04:00You don't need to explain that you have perspectiv...You don't need to explain that you have perspective or anything like that--having two children already, losing a child to miscarriage (as opposed to an already-born child)--nothing minimizes the fact that you are experiencing the loss of what would have been the third beautiful child you brought into this world. You and your family have every right to mourn and grieve. I'm so very sorry for your loss.<br /><br />Take care of yourself, and let yourself feel all your feelings. <br />And by the way, first time I've commented, but I read you all the time. Love you and your family!<br /><br />May I ask where that lovely painting you use in this post came from? It really touched me, for a bunch of reasons.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-7296153499930926212009-04-15T12:24:00.000-04:002009-04-15T12:24:00.000-04:00Oh Kim, I am so sorry. It truly and honestly suck...Oh Kim, I am so sorry. It truly and honestly sucks. Maddie and Thalon are tragedies and they are different, but that doesn't make your very real loss inconsequential. You, David and the girls are in my thoughts. <br /><br />Take care of yourself. We'll be here when you get back and miss you in your absence. <br /><br />Be well.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11530892587771136443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-19735902545315265812009-04-15T10:50:00.000-04:002009-04-15T10:50:00.000-04:00so sorry, i know what you are going through having...so sorry, i know what you are going through having been there myself. you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.<3Cali ʚϊɞhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15053587611937994882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6434726458328084701.post-84587943478544516992009-04-15T10:10:00.000-04:002009-04-15T10:10:00.000-04:00Hey Kim-What a heartbreaking loss. My heart goes ...Hey Kim-What a heartbreaking loss. My heart goes out to you, David, Lucy and Edie. Take your own sweet time in feeling better. Sometimes fighting feeling depressed only makes it worse.<br />As for your writing, Lisa's right. We'll still be around.Anne Stesneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04578405052817943785noreply@blogger.com